Q: I never wanted to wear the corporate business “uniform.” I add my special flare by wearing artsy tee shirts under my blazer and funky designer shoes. I am expressing my personal brand. But recently a colleague asked if I was being defiant. How can I be me at work?
A. I led a seminar at Radcliffe that showcased high-level women in business and in politics and at the end of the seminar my students remarked to my surprise: The more successful the woman, the higher her heels! Frankly, I hadn’t noticed because each women had a professional flair that was distinct and not defiant. Consider the following:
- What does “defiant” mean to you?
- What message are you sending? Is your message “Look at me, I am different/special,” or are you saying “Look at me, I don’t belong here”?
- Are you being authentic? Does your choice of shirt and shoes express who you are and where you are taking your career?
- Are you dressed appropriately for your audience? Note: When I am giving a speech I wear my blue suit with an eye-catching pin.
Being visible in the workplace is key to advancement. You want to “stand out” for the right reasons, not be the butt of conversations based on what you wear each day. I have noticed that my style has evolved so that it’s not only distinct, it complements my personality.
Remember: If you are beginning your career, my advice is to appreciate the cultural norms and “fit in.” As you move up and gain more clout and professional status, you will 
know exactly what to where and when to wear it.