Q. My parents live in Liberia and when my colleagues joke about Ebola I don’t speak out–I cringe. They know I am African but the jokes keep coming. Should I say something?
A. Let me preface my answer by hoping that your parents are well and that your homeland will return to health and vibrancy. Although all the Texans who came in contact with Thomas Duncan were clear of the virus, for several weeks attention was focused on the two nurses who were infected. It’s no laughing matter, but that is not the reason your colleagues are telling jokes. People react differently to fear; making jokes is literally a way to make light of a situation.
Consider the following:
- What do your colleagues know about your background? Your heritage? Note: have you allowed your colleagues to view you as African without distinguishing that you are Liberian from a specific hometown and region?
- Is the joke aimed at you?
- Is there an opportunity or an opening for a “teachable moment”? Can you share not only what you feel but also facts about Ebola?
Remember to be gracious and take the high ground. Don’t close the door by confronting
your colleagues—instead, open the door by letting them know that your parents are in Liberia and that they are well.