Question: I don’t have a question, I have a problem: My social circle keeps shrinking because I work all of the time. I guess it is what it is.
Answer: I almost wish that “whatever” would make a comeback and replace “it is what it is” because the latter makes me shudder—the person is resigned, without hope, dead: just throw dirt over them. Yikes. Even “whatever” has more life in it!
Here is a little tweak: it is what you allow/accept. When you have a problem start asking questions:
- When I am not working, how do I spend my time?
- When you are not with your friends in person, how often do you stay in touch?
- How do you keep your friends up to date? Are you up to date on what is happening in their lives?
- Who do you want to bring back into your social network?
Now, check your calendar
- Are your social occasions scheduled?
- Do you have your friends’ special occasions (birthdays, anniversary) listed in your calendar?
Finally,
Prioritize: if you have been invited to an event that appears to be a “once in a lifetime special occasion” (e.g. graduation, retirement, soccer game, etc.), GO! Don’t miss it. You strengthen friendships by celebrating and creating new memories.
Remember that as human beings we are social beings—the stronger our relationships, the healthier and happier we are. And, loving and being loved is the ticket to a new domain. Enjoy.